For the past few weeks I have dealt with quite a bit and frankly, I’m tired. I wanted to write but did not want to vent my frustrations and my hurt out onto you guys. Then I got to a point last week where I just didn’t want to write at all. I’m sure I had several experiences to learn from and to share with you but they were clouded by things going through my mind. Then yesterday happened and even though I’m still hurting I could not pass up this opportunity to share a lesson that was very loud and very clear and of course, very icky.
My 8-month old baby girl is moving – quickly I might add – and getting into everything! If you have ever had a little one in your house, then you know what that means. It’s time to get on the floor and move around as you spot the little things they will spot and put into their mouths. Unfortunately, some of us by the third child may not do this proactive thorough inspection. Instead, we vacuum (maybe) and then run shouting, “noooo!” as we try to stop them from putting something into their mouths.
Well, yesterday, I was very proud of myself because I got a chance to clean and vacuum in the middle of a school day, while having a very successful potty training day with my toddler and all without it interrupting the school day. YES! So of course, I was very surprised to hear my daughter choking as I was teaching. After all, what could she be choking on? Without hesitation, of course, I ran, picked her up and scooped my finger through her mouth. It wasn’t easy because my joyful healthy baby loves to eat, smile and keep things from you (and she just so happened to be doing that all at one time). I had no idea what was in her mouth. Surprisingly, I was very calm yet actively pursuing this thing that she seemed to not just be choking on but still chewing. I went in one more time trying to scoop whatever it was out without causing her to go into a panic.
“Lord, help me.” Within seconds of me saying this, out came her lunch all over my cute black outfit I put together just before my husband left for work. Down it went, inside and outside my shirt, down my pant leg, onto my shoes and finally on the exercise mat we just put down for my toddler to practice her tumbling skills. With my older two looking how I felt, they simultaneously said “ewwww, that’s disgusting.” While my baby girl was smiling and trying to grab hold of the mess that just came out of her, I went searching for whatever it was that she was choking on. Nothing!
As I wiped up the last bit praying that whatever it was doesn’t hurt her and that it comes out at some point, my daughter (sitting right next to me) coughed and out came bottle #1 (breakfast)! Immediately, I had to scoop her up because she grabbed something and tried to put it back into her mouth (did I mention that some of my lessons learned were pretty icky?!?) As I searched through this icky mess, I finally spotted a long and wide piece of clear plastic! I still don’t know where it came from but the lesson that hit me right away was “Just wait. There is beauty in the mess. Don’t miss it.”
The plastic, that was the cause of the mess, wasn’t beautiful at all; but, the fact that my daughter was no longer choking and that she was okay was beautiful. Whatever you may be going through right now is not pretty or beautiful at all. The cause of the icky mess is awful! Calling the situation as it is…Awful, ugly, horrible, unfair…But the end result, the stuff that comes as a result of the icky mess, as a result of the thing that even caused the icky mess, yes, that stuff is beautiful. Sometimes, I get caught up in trying to figure out what’s causing the icky mess that I miss what needs to be done and ultimately my search (or obsession) with trying to figure it out, causing to overshadow the beautiful end result. Therefore, instead of continuing to search for something that was not there, I began to clean and pray.
The icky mess could not remain on my floor. That would be just gross. Just like the icky mess in your life, can’t just remain in your life. You have to clean it up! How do you do that? With every wipe, I prayed. With every tear, I will pray for those involved. With every question, I will take to God. With every down mood, I will hug my children or my husband (he LOVES those). With every doubt, I will wipe it away with a thankful picture. This icky mess will not remain in my life. I am on a mission to get it cleaned up! I don’t know exactly what’s causing the icky mess but it will eventually come out. However, I’m no longer looking for what’s causing the icky mess. I am now looking for the BEAUTY that will be the result of the icky MESS! I don’t want to miss this one!